empowering through tenderness

in some recent contemplations, i found two words which focalized my intent, akin to my fractal signature:  depth and empowerment -- as in bringing depth and empowerment into my relationships, into my daily life.  in my initial forays into this action, i have come upon an interesting hypothesis, that of empowerment through tenderness.  

my first thought on bringing depth and empowerment to relationships followed my personal rubric of finding and supporting the persons fractal signature, analogous to a person’s first cause.  upon initiating this in several relationships, i found mixed results.  on the one hand, i had some interesting and deep conversations filling my impulse toward depths.  on the other hand, i didnt find the conversations to be that empowering for the other people.  it was more like an investigation or in some cases like an exciting excursion, but when the journey was completed we arrived back at the same spaces.  

i then had several experiences that opened another window for me.  the first experience was with my daughter wherein i rather harshly reacted to her teenage individuating and gave her a ridiculous lecture on respect.  in hindsight this was mostly to do with my sense of coming loss and my past with her brothers in the dreaded teenage years, than her being disrespectful.  even though it has been redundantly proven that she responds best with tenderness, it was the latest example of my choosing harshness over tenderness.

the next experience i had began with a tempestuous conversation with a friend wherein i advocated for her fractal signature.  a bit later we talked again, sporting our battlefield scars, and instead of entering the stadium once more, we chose to simply breathe together and to acknowledge our fragility and honor our humanness.  

then last night, my wife cuddles up to me laying her head on my chest, and says this is her favorite place to be.  in each of these relationships, i had been ruminating and trying on how best to empower/support them.  and in each case, the same answer arose  -- through tenderness.  

this answer through these experiences got me to pondering on empowerment and tenderness.  empowerment can be seen as a masculine term of facilitating someone to live their fractal signature/ideals.  tenderness can be seen as a feminine term of supporting someone to live fully their ephemerality/humanness. empowerment through tenderness is thus a marriage of feminine and masculine -- a marriage of living ideals and embracing fully the everyday.

what is ones fractal signature?  what does it mean to live fully ones humanness? following a spectrum of being model delineated by sensorial, psychological, imaginal, unitive,  i would say ideals arise in the unitive.  there are two main experiences of the unitive -- oneness as interwoven tapestry, oneness as pure light -- wherein the former is experienced as a breathing vastness and the latter is like a focalized radiance.  

focalized radiance when applied to the individual can be seen as ones fractal signature, the pure light that erupted from nothingness.  breathing vastness when applied to an individual can be seen as embracing fully our humanness, the breathing oneness that is everything.

to empower one to live ones fractal signature is to help them unearth their diamondheart.  the diamondheart is created by forging the ideals/facets into a coherent unity.  as this diamond is purified through the removal of flaws within each facet, the inner radiance can more powerfully emit. 

to support through tenderness, that is to nurture one in living fully our humanness is to embrace our fragility, our finality.  upon this cosseting of our transitoriness one can freely ken the emptiness of themself.  with this embodying of our ephemerality, one can expand   effortlessly into our collective vastness.  flowing in/as this vastness, one can allow the full blooming of their gossamer earthflower.  

to empower through tenderness then is the re-creation of the dance of sun and earth.  our inner light powered through our diamondheart beams its nourishing radiance unto our endless fields of earthflowers.  these earthflowers gladly metabolize this offering into expanding nurseries for these birthing suns and evernew meeting ground for these frolicking orbs.